Sometimes you feel like you can't live with your spouse anymore until something changes.
If there is something you want to change in your spouse (or maybe something your spouse wants to change in you), then the best you can do is continue to love and pray for your spouse.
Ask God to do what you cannot do, change the human heart and transform the human mind. Don’t attempt to force a change in your mate. Leave that up to God.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7